The women in The Hite Report had five main complaints about their vers. First, many women enjoyed touching and caressing for the leasure of the activity itself and not necessarily only as a prelude to intercourse. The touching could be from lying pressed close together; or gentle and passionate kissing; or sleeping together in a close embrace. Second, many women complained about the dull routine of sexual intercourse. Inevitably, sex began with kisses, then the woman’s breasts were explored, then her clitoral area, while she fondled the man’s penis, then, and rather too rapidly, sexual intercourse started and when the man had come it was all over. This is an exaggerated version of the man’s lack of sensitivity to his partner’s needs, but it seems to have been a ‘consistent’ pattern of sex for many of the women. Third, many women complained that their lover did not really care about arousing them in a passionate way. Many of the men spent too little time in trying to arouse their partner, or did it in the wrong way, and, worse, having aroused her, did not help her to orgasm. The man either expected the woman to reach orgasm simultaneously with his orgasm, or tried to give her an orgasm when he decided the time was right. Fourth, in spite of the so-called sexual revolution, which is said to have liberated women sexually, many women complained that the men they knew still ‘wanted to play games’, and were unable to accept the woman as an independent person, were unable to treat her as anything but a sex object, and felt threatened by a sexually ‘aggressive’ woman. In other words, they still believed in the double standard of sexual behaviour. Fifth, most women wanted sex as part of a warm, affectionate, mutually respecting relationship, and not just as a pleasurable genital sensation. British and Australian women make similar complaints about their partner’s sexual behaviour and performance, judging by letters in magazines and by surveys, similar to that made by Shere Hite in the U.S.A.
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The second phase of orgasm quickly follows the first. The muscles which surround and support the urethra and the base of the penis begin to contract in a rhythmic, regular, co-ordinated way forcing the seminal fluid, under considerable pressure, along the urethra until it is ejected from the eye of the penis. The pressure is such that the ejaculated seminal fluid may spurt a distance of 25 to 50 centimetres (1 о to 20 inches) from the penis. At the same time the whole of the man’s pelvic muscles and those of his abdomen and buttocks contract rhythmically. The stretching of the man’s urethra, the rhythmic contraction of its surrounding muscles, and the expulsion of the seminal fluid along the urethra are interpreted in his brain as the pleasurable response of orgasm. The first two or three contractions of the pelvic muscles are strongest and it is at this time that the pleasure of the orgasm is the greatest. As they occur at intervals of 0.8 seconds, the maximum duration of intense pleasure is 2 seconds. The later contractions of the muscles surrounding the deep urethra are less strong and are associated with less pleasure. They rarely last for more than 2 seconds.
This observation is probably the origin of the statement, attributed to the 4th Earl of Chesterfield, that ‘the pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous and the expense damnable’. However, for this momentary pleasure many a man has travelled many a mile.
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When the spinal cord is intact, the sex centre in the brain controls the spinal erection reflex. If the messages coming into the brain sex centre are erotic, from memories or fantasy or thoughts, the erection reflex works more easily and rapidly, in other words, it is “acilitated. But if the messages received by the sex centre from other parts of the brain are disturbing, because of old unhappy memories, depression, anxieties, or hang-ups about sex, or because of anxieties about other matters, or because of hostility to one’s partner, the erection reflex is damped down, or inhibited. This inhibition may be so strong that the erection fails to occur, or if it occurs it may be only transitory.
With increasing age, the facilitating messages from the brain become reduced, and perhaps the reflex from the stroked penis is less easily started, so that older men often take longer to get an erection. But even very old men can get an erection if the penis is stimulated for long enough.
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How a man’s sex drive starts and how it is maintained is not completely understood, but the male sex hormone, testosterone, is strongly implicated. At puberty, testosterone is secreted into the blood in increasing amounts, and all mammals (including humans) become sexually arousable.
Evidence that testosterone is essential for triggering a man’s sex drive comes from the study of the Dominican villages. Once these ‘girls’ reached puberty, their testes began to secrete testosterone and they began to have male sex fantasies, to masturbate, to ejaculate, and finally to have sexual intercourse, although they were fearful of being ridiculed because of their small penis and split scrotum.
The ‘intersex’ men not only became male in shape but they developed a male sexual drive. They perceived girls as sexually exciting, they had male sexual daydreams, and when sexually stimulated they ejaculated. In other words, each of them responded as a male would respond to erotic stimulation, although up to this time he had thought himself to be, and others had thought him to be, a girl. The testosterone had triggered his male sex drive.
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Investigations into adolescent sexuality are difficult to organize and few, if any, of those made can escape criticism. However, the information obtained from Scandinavia, the U.S.A., and Britain is sufficiently important to be recorded so that the reality of current adolescent sexuality can be contrasted with the conventional illusions.
In all three countries, boys are more likely to have had sexual intercourse, with more partners, than are girls; and both boys and girls of lower socio-economic groups are more likely to have had sexual intercourse at an earlier age than those in higher socioeconomic groups.
Ira Reiss studied adolescent sexual behaviour in America in 1967. He found that he could divide sexual behaviour into four groups. These are (1) Abstinence:
pre-marital intercourse is wrong for both sexes, although some kissing and petting is permitted. (2) The double standard:
this states that as men have a stronger sexual drive than women, and a need to satisfy it, men can ‘indulge’ in sexual intercourse when they want. A woman either should await marriage or, occasionally, may permit sexual intercourse with her fiance. (3) Permissiveness with affection: if the couple have an affectionate, relatively stable relationship, sexual intercourse is permitted. (4) Permissiveness without affection: sex is a universal pleasurable activity for both men and women, and each can enjoy sexual intercourse regardless of the amount of affection which exists between them.
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